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Stay strong and keep on doing what you are doing. The children want you. It is their family home. If your ex has made the mistake of running off elsewhere and letting the children see her for the weak person she is then you are easily winning in their minds right now. She will have turned the children against her forever.
Not much you can do about her moving back in. You cannot make her homeless. As long as you behave and she does not go down the domestic violence accusations route then nothing she can do will get you out of the home.
Grin and bare it with the new boyfriend. Chances are he will soon tire. Anyone going through a breakup with child custody fight is going to be a pita to date. Sadly the law says your wife can bring who she wants into the home. I suggest you get a bodycam. Film all encounters and remain calm. If your wifes’ boyfriend is threatening or aggressive then straight away call the police. Remain calm. Focus on winning the children. If she loses their love then she has lost.
Same experience with Cafcass. Accusations of mental illness. I pay for psychiatric consultant to do an assessment and get the all clear. Cafcass refuse to recognise expert opinion and go with their unqualified opinion.
It is as if Cafcass completely dismiss psychiatry and trust only their gut instincts.
Take the fight to Cafcass. Protest outside their offices!
Last week I finally acted. My son is now 12 so the law views him differently. He can now make a choice as to who he sees and does not always have to be left under adult supervision. So rather than go via the courts I decided to do as any other father does and just roll up to see my son for the day.
I had checked his school dates and there was an overlap between him and his sister. Meaning he had broken up for the summer 2 days before his sister. Running it through in my mind I figured this would mean that his career obsessed mother who works 8-6 would leave him home alone.
So I went to Cambridge for the day. 05:03 I get the train out of Kings Cross. Arrive outside his home in Cambridge (one that the ex and courts think I do not have the address for) at 06:45. My son is the first awake. Curtains go back and I am sat 10 metres away in the playground/park opposite the house. I am wearing sunglasses, am a stone lighter and very brown after weeks in Greece. He does not recognise me.
I sit there calmly for an hour. Eventually ex comes out with my 8 yr old daughter. I am sat there listening to music, sunglasses still on. She fails to recognise me. Cycles right past and thinks nothing unusual about a guy at 8am sunbathing opposite her home.
The coast is clear. My 12 yr old son is home alone. It is a sunny day in Cambridge and nobody is now going to call the police. So I go in. Ring the doorbell and after 30 seconds am greetd by my son who I was primary carer for aged 0-4. he is ecstatic to see me. First time in 8 years that we have been in the same physical location. First time he has been allowed to speak to me in 4 years. I invite him to come and sit outside and we spend hours chatting. He has a friend come round to do a homework assignment (first day of holiday and mother already has him working) so I take off until 5pm and then spend another hour with him.
I then head back to station and ex runs into me on bike with daughter following. She screams at me wanting to know how I found her address and how I knew son would be home alone. I ignore her and greet my daughter and tell her I love her. Ex then cycles off.
Today the courts summons have arrived. I am in contempt of court. I spent a few hours with my 12 yr old son. Accusations that I said inappropriate things to him by telling him that at 12 years old he now has a say in who he spends time with. All hell is about to break loose again and Ex still is as damaged as she was 8 years ago.
From what I can remember there is no form. You need to search for templates online. Fathers who have shared info before.
It is all pretty much common sense. Numbered paragraphs. Keep the points brief. Bullet points. Remember it is the judge reading it and they will only briefly skim most points. They do not expect too much from non legal professionals.
August 2, 2018 at 8:09 pm in reply to: Feeling bullied & very depressed…Not seen my Son in 12 Weeks, #10747I saw my son last week for 2 hours. First contact in 8 years. He was overjoyed to see me. Despite only being 4 when the ex booted me out of his life he still has good memories and is forever asking for contact with me. We had so much in common.
You could try courts but it is cheaper to run a credit check. Search on line for the companies that find debtors. Give them your ex’s details and last known address and they will come back to you in a couple of weeks with new address at a fraction of the cost of a court order.
If the tracing companies need you to have a business to run the search then just find anyone you know who is self employed through a ltd company. They can run the trace in their name and it is all within data protection laws
Good to be back
I am back. Had a brief break from all this. Focussed on other things in life.
Then back in May it was all too tempting again.
So I did Croydon Cafcass Office. 16 floors of government offices. Mostly Inland Revenue and HMRC but CAFCASS like to hide amongst the other government workers.
I put on an F4J shirt, put on a body camera and took another camera to photograph CAFCASS workers as they exited the building on to public roads. Then finally in the scorching heat of summer I took an umbrella to protect me from the glare of the sun.
One of these umbrellas
So I rolled up for 11.45, to disrupt their lunch. Immediately people notice a guy in an F4J shirt and samurai sword and security start getting edgy. The head security guy comes out to challenge me but as I am on a public road I tell him he has no place questioning me.
16 floors of offices then go into lockdown. Security are worried that a father with a grudge is waiting. Police get called and eventually 4 police vehicles show up and 16 or more officers come out. I am handcuffed, they perform a stop and search and then on the radio they report “it is just an umbrella”.After 30 minutes of the police try to engage in conversation and trying to get me to implicate myself I am left by the police. They leave one car to watch me. Onlookers are filming and laughing that the police can scramble so many officers for one guy with an umbrella.
So I spend another 2 hours relatively unmolested outside the entrance. Photographing security and staff leaving and entering. Eventually another 2 police cars are sent out as the security in Southern House are getting jittery. Now the questioning is all about acting suspiciously. They want details as to who I am and you can see they are looking at prevention of terrorism legislation to remove me. I manage to placate them with answers that I am just out getting some sun and am unaware of any government agencies in the vicinity. They want to take my umbrella but as they will not charge me (they briefly arrest me and say I am not free to go) I remind them that would constitute “interference with property”.
Quite an effective means of protesting. Pretty much well all within the law. Stay on roads/public property and just be as much as an annoyance as possible. Talk rubbish to the police. Disrupt CAFCASS as they so much love to disrupt our lives.
August 2, 2018 at 7:35 pm in reply to: Child arrangement order – Mother can take child abroad for 1 month? #10743It is pretty much well correct. Resident parent can remove the child for 28 days even if that means NRP misses out on contact. It happens every summer. Smug parents with orders in their favour decide to just up and leave the other parent with no contact all summer. The only requirement is that the Resident Parent then makes up that time elsewhere but by all large the courts care little and just enable abusers to write the other parent out of the child’s life if that is their goal.
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