[Tom LondonParticipant]

I am limited and pay for accountancy company that generate payslips for me.

With a salary of £472 a month I was getting taken for £5 a week. Under the CMS it is £9 a week.I bill clients at over 70k a year

Just be aware that minimising your childcare payments will send your ex nuts. Mine took to screaming at the judge in court during an application for contact by myself that I pay “fuck nothing” and deserve no contact as a result.

Child support avoidance is a drastic measure used by desperate parents.

[Tom LondonParticipant]

As a father to two children of dual nationality British/French you have my support. I lived in constant fear that my ex would just up and leave if I ever made progress in the courts.

The narcissist, violent male tag gets thrown at all of us. Males who get angry are dangerous. Even if the anger is a perfectly normal response at having children snatched. You need to be a sociopath and show no emotion.

Your ex has illegally removed your daughter. You are within your rights to snatch her back unless a court has ruled on residency. You need to weigh up the pros of doing so. Just be aware that the courts are largely toothless and if you stay within the law you will be relegated to role of a visiting uncle. If you took her back then things would escalate rapidly. Sometimes the kindest thing you can do is become a stranger in your childs life until they are old enough to find you.

Have you at least reported the kidnap to the UK police? They can get permission to repatriate her.

[Tom LondonParticipant]

Run a search past a credit agency online if you want her new address. If they refuse to assist then give me an email address and I will run it through my limited company. £40 or so for the report that comes back within a week.

The courts are way too lenient on resident parents who take off leaving no address where as NRPs get chased through the courts and imprisoned/fined for similar behaviour.

[Tom LondonParticipant]

You can do it. She has moved to live somewhere else so it is not like she is homeless. Act now before you find she moves back in and locks you out

[Tom LondonParticipant]

NHunt has a point. She is threatening kidnap. Get in there first and then use the excuse that she was talking about fleeing so you were protecting the children.

[Tom LondonParticipant]

You need solicitors for this kind of advice. Tracking an adult without their consent constitutes stalking. You knew your wife would be driving the car.

Bail conditions seem unnecessarily harsh. Run them past a solicitor and contest them in court. You need a judge to rule and rule quickly on the occupation of the family home. Emergency court order.

As for emigration to Canada… Forget Canadian law. She needs a UK court to sanction her removing the children to reside in Canada. If she just upped and left it is child kidnap and Canadian authorities could not just ignore it.

[Tom LondonParticipant]

You had a relationship with your solicitor???? You reap what you sow.

You should always contest a non molestation order. Most judges will waive them as they are too restrictive. Once in place you either need to walk away or prepare for a custodial sentence.

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[Tom LondonParticipant]

You are not dreaming. I remember US share holders in Tesco bringing a class action against Tesco for the accountancy scandal. They were granted damages for being misled by the UK based company but UK citizens could not join the same class action.

I approve of this whole strategy. Guerilla war. Where ever we can see a weakness we exploit it. Pool all knowledge. Fund cases which will force through change. Use the same tactics that the womens movement have been using. Demand quotas, point out gender bias and especially go after cafcass and their hiring of predominantly women. Cafcass need to reflect society. More men, fewer radical feminists.

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[Tom LondonParticipant]

I would have loved to have seen the family courts dragged before the European courts and fined for repeatedly breaching human rights laws, but alas that opportunity has closed.

It is a nice idea though. One legal company that set itself up to bring the family courts to justice. Really Liberty should be doing this kind of role but I guess they are too gutless. Freedom of information requests, class actions and claims for damages. Any case that stands a good chance of winning, setting a precedent and changing the actions of judges to be crowd funded and all monies to go back into a central pot to fund more cases. Break the family courts by suing them and going after them with aggressive litigation.

[Tom LondonParticipant]

Perjury and lies are what the family courts are built on. No judge gives a toss if you are lying. They expect and even encourage you to lie, fabricate and embellish. Wait until you run into cafcass. They spend their whole working hours perfecting the art of lying.

Your solicitor sounds useless. Why have they not already challenged the Non molestation? Normally if you agree to undertakings the courts kick the non molestation order out of court. It is rare that it sticks.

[Tom LondonParticipant]

What are the terms of the Nol molestation? Be aware that this is stage 2 in getting you prosecuted for a criminal offence. Did they attach powers of arrest? If so if you even look at your ex it can become a police matter.

This is textbook ruin a man in 5 easy steps. You need to disengage or fight smarter.

[Tom LondonParticipant]

You want to get the non mol over turned? Solicitors/ legal professionals for that. You will have to show you were not served and you can expect process servers to be lenient with truth. If you are within 21 days then you always can go straight to appeal. Outside of that you have to seek permission to appeal but in your case, not being served would be good cause.

[Tom LondonParticipant]

How do we get the message out that the family courts and cafcass have deviated so far from the law and the best interests of the children when the press are still barred from reporting the worst injustices?

Even the judiciary seem to acknowledge the system is broken but nobody wants to rock the boat too much as a whole strata of the ruling elite and failed social workers survive on the fees and salaries they make from human misery. It is a billion £ industry that would largely vanish if laws were applied and cafcass were gender neutral.

[Tom LondonParticipant]

Sounds like it is a process server trying to serve you with a court summons. Probably a non molestation order that your ex has applied for. She is going down the process of getting you a criminal conviction.

[Tom LondonParticipant]

She is being unreasonable but as mothers go this is mild behaviour.

She can take the children out of the country for 28 days without your consent. This is the law. Nothing you can do about it. She is in breach of court orders…well they are not worth the paper they are written on. As resident parent she effectively owns the children and lends them out to you. She can at a future point cease all contact and the courts are loathed to enforce it.

She sounds like a mother who is starting to realise how little power the courts have and is starting to push the limits of what she is permitted. Pray that she does not find out the full extent to what she can get away with (removing all contact is easily done by resident parents).

Nothing you can do here but play the game. Dance to her tune. If you kick off then the children will be told it is all your fault.

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