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Sounds like a lunatic man. Just like my ex, they will provoke you to breaking point and then point the finger at you and say you’re the abusive one.
Do not react at all, sounds like you are doing a good job of not doing so already. Hate to say it but you need to break it off with her.
Mate family law solicitors are the biggest parasites on this planet. Best DITCH them right away. How can you feel comfortable using one when its FACT that they are destroying families for a living. I dont know how they can live with themselves when they make money from fathers misery and they certainly do not give a flying fuck about the children, all they care about is that legal aid coming in.
Hey man you really don’t need. Solicitor. If you are concerned of abduction….fill out the C100 form, and apply for a prohibited steps order which stops her taking your child out the country.
It’s as simple as filling out a form to do….I think you have to pay £215 to the courts too, but thats for a child arrangements, not sure if its the same for a prohibited steps order.
Very similar to my situation….I had every order under the sun served to me. What you need to do is now go through the correct legal channels. Have you been to mediation? If not, you need to. It sounds like that won’t work, so you then can fill out the C100 form and apply for a child arrangements order and specific issues order.
Your ex sounds just as narcissistic as my ex. Best to keep well away from her and just focus on seeing ypur children. It’s a dire situation man. But my situation has now made me bullet proof. I have had supported contact put into place by the courts, until i can prove domestic violence didnt happen. The fact finding hearing is very soon, and in 100% sure the courts wont beleive her! I can prove she is not being truthful on 80% of her allegations.
Keep your head up, go through the process and keep it purely children focussed…you will come out the winner.
June 5, 2019 at 9:50 am in reply to: Does a mother have to tell a father who has parental responsibility about A&E vi #11998Thanks, i do understand that it’s hard work looking after twins and things like this will happen. I’m not going to make a big deal about the incident at the next hearing, but i will mention it and ask the courts to make a specific issues order stating that she needs to inform me of any A&E visits.
I bet her anxiety levels are off the chart now that she knows i know about it because the doctors informed her i requested their records. There are also times she has cancled contact saying because the gp said this the gp said that but in their records there is no mention of them going to the gp about the illnesses she cancled contact over.
You really do not need a solicitor…..why pay hundreds or thousands of pounds to a solicitor to do things that you can easily do you yourself.
First step….invite her to mediation to sign a parental responsibility agreement. If she wont agree to that,
Second step…..apply to court for parental responsibility.
https://www.gov.uk/parental-rights-responsibilities/apply-for-parental-responsibility
On this website there is a link to the application form to fill out and send to court. It will cost you £215.
Solicitors charge way more than that an hour, honestly dont waste your time and money on solicitors who are the driving force behind fatherlessness.
Also dont dely, start tomorrow. Find a local mediator and enquire about prices, and invite her to it as soon as. Get the ball rolling.
I think all you can do in this case is to wait for the letter, and appeal the decision if its not good. There should be directions in the letter on how to appeal, and sounds like your best bet is to use your sons ADHD as a point of appeal
My ex solicitors (sneaky rotten bastards) purposely didnt send the police disclosure to the court at the last hearing because it actually proves my ex to be lying. Her solicitors then said to the judge that if i engage with the services (domestic violence intervention programme, alcohol rehab, and anger management course) i would get unsupported contact alot sooner with out a need for a fact finding hearing. I said no thanks, this procedure has taken so long already i dont mind waiting another 6 months for a fact finding hearing. Court ordered hair strand test and fact finding hearing, already had the hair strand test (never been an alcohol or drug abuser) and all clean. I cant wait for the fact finding hearing! Cafcass have already said that they dont think my ex has genuine concerns
March 15, 2019 at 9:34 am in reply to: London meeting for fathers having difficulties contacting children #11575Ok. Unfortunately marcin, i don’t know of any support networks in london or near by for fathers suffering abuse from malicious woman. I know exactly what you are going through though. I felt the same but I chose not to go to the doctors because I didn’t want any thing on my medical records to do with mental health, and for good reason too. Cafcass questioned me in depth on my mental health, and even suggested I had counselling off the back of a false allegation my ex made.
I’d like to say it gets easier, but your situation has gone on a little bit longer than mine. Mine started in january 2018. Do you see your son at all or is he in poland?
March 14, 2019 at 11:10 pm in reply to: London meeting for fathers having difficulties contacting children #11573Hi Marcin, weird question, but do you work in Penton street?
Your best bet is to get a court order. If 4 nights a week is the established norm, it would be wrong to change that.
Its absolutely shocking. But your son does not need a solicitor because they cannot ensure any particular out come. Rather use a mckenzie friend, they are far cheaper. My only advice to your son, dont make counter allegations pr say any thing bad about his ex. Focus on dusputing her specific allegations and stay child focussed. Courts are not interested in he said she said, they want to see that fathers are strong enough to remain calm and child focussed. I too have a fact finding hearing in 5 months. Solicitors representing resident parents will always use delay tactics because its more money for them. Family law solicitors are parasites.
https://www.advicenow.org.uk/guides/how-apply-parental-responsibility-without-help-lawyer
This will help you and it explains how to get PR much better than I have explained it.
Ok, i have given some one advice who has had similar happen to him.
Firstly, welcome to a long hard struggle. Hang in there, the hurt will take along time to go away but after a while the hurt becomes a little easier to manage and cope with.If you aren’t included on the birth certificate, don’t panic. It is possible to get parental responsibility but it involves going through the court process if she doesn’t agree to a parental responsibility agreement. You have to do a MIAM session first before you can apply. She has 42 days after birth to register the birth. Work out what day that will be after your child is born. After that date, invite her to mediation to do a MIAM about signing a PR agreement, unless you find out if she has registered the birth sooner and if you find out she does then invite her to a MIAM as soon as you find out. If that fails, you can only then start the court process as you will need to have evidence that you have been to a MIAM.
What ever access she will let you have, do it even if her and her mum is present. If you are really uncomfortable with that, then you can register at a supported contact centre.
You can only take her to court for access if you have parental responsibility unfortunately, so you will need to get PR. Its quite a long process so by the time you are able to apply for contact your son could be a year and a half years old. But if you are lucky and she agrees to a PR agreement then you can start court proceedings sooner.
Court should be avoided at all costs, its a nasty process so I hope she is decent enough to agree to things in mediation.
Does she use a solicitor? If she does you need to chase it up with them
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