Jez,
Thanks for sharing your story , it sounded like a long frustrating time for you, I fear I am just about to start the same journey. Did you use any of the fathers4justuce lawyers or speak to anyone at F4J for advice and guidance about your case?
Big ted, All sounds positive for you at the moment, do you mind letting us know what you wanted and got, and how you did it please?
I’m Minnie’s Dad, Minnie is 12weeks old, my wife has left the family home 3weeks ago and has moved 75 miles away back with her parent’s with my daughter. I have travelled down twice a week to see my daughter. Minnie is breastfeeding and my wife will not express so I can have some quality time with Minnie. I have 3 hours with her each time at my wife’s parents house.
I’m all for breastfeeding and was proud of my wife for her commitment to it, however it has now been put in a position more important than spending quality time with her father. my wife has always used her breastfeeding to be possessive with our daughter and is now using it to restrict my access to Minnie. She always expressed at the hospital and when we returned home until about 5 weeks when she stopped as a punishment for having a minor row with her, she wouldn’t even leave me any expressed milk for her when she returned to work, albeit she was only going for 1 1/2 hour’s, but still it made me feel uncomfortable being left with my own baby without food for her. It must be a control thing.
She had threatened several times about taking Minnie away, going back to work wondering whether your daughter is going to be home when you return, it’s no way to live.
We have tried counselling but I think to much hurt has been caused now. I have booked a mediation for this week, my wife is refusing to go, this my play in to my hands of this goes to court which I am expecting.
I have dreamed prayed and waited for the last 20 to have a child. I have never loved anything so much, and she’s been taken away from me just liked that.
I need to do everything I can to build my bond with my daughter, I don’t want to look back in 10/20 years wishing or knowing I could have done more.
I’m missing something everyday. Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated.
