[TheOneWhoKnocksParticipant]

Mobile phones indeed.

I bought my son an iPhone 5 last year. His mother confiscated it.

[TheOneWhoKnocksParticipant]

I quite agree with NHunt’s points above, but don’t send a letter every day. It can be seen as vexatious.

But Lawyer’s Letters generally aren’t worth the paper they are written on. They don’t carry any special power or privilege, and courts can be accessed by laypeople.

Good luck!

[TheOneWhoKnocksParticipant]

Hello David,

There is a BIG jump from full custody to losing access between these two sentences.

“I had full custody of all of my kids on my way won, I got full care of them from my x after years of neglect from her. The social took the kids and I went to court and got them then last year in July my x called the police and I have been accused of hitting them and child neglect.”

Take a free hour consultation with a family law solicitor — ASAP, and bring all of your case notes to date.

[TheOneWhoKnocksParticipant]

NHunt is right.

Family courts aren’t about who is right or wrong, but about the likelihood — or balance of probabilities.

[TheOneWhoKnocksParticipant]

What does she want to go to Australia for?

A better job? Are her family over there?

I quite agree with Tom. It’s bonkers that even such a facility should even exist to take a child away from commuting distance of the other parent. In nearly every case I’ve seen it’s more about obstructing the other parent from seeing the child than it is for the best interests of the child, and/or parents.

[TheOneWhoKnocksParticipant]

“is consistently rejecting my proposals”

Ask him/her for a holiday proposal, then. And quickly, as Easter is almost here!

[TheOneWhoKnocksParticipant]

The kids will likely see things more clearly in time, but just remain consistent with them and give them time to ‘decompress’ from the stress and coaching that they’ll invariably be receiving at your exes.

[TheOneWhoKnocksParticipant]

Gather your evidence. How long away has the hearing been booked?

[TheOneWhoKnocksParticipant]

It sounds quite early on to be throwing out the false allegations…

How long was your hearing? Was it a directions or a final hearing?

[TheOneWhoKnocksParticipant]

Sounds like bollocks.

She may be able to have a single family member in court with her as a McKenzie friend (see the sticky article on McKenzie friends here for more information).

Have you asked her to supply a BPD test of her own, first?

[TheOneWhoKnocksParticipant]

Bloody hell – you are not alone. It’s a common tactic to sway the child to say what one of the parents wants them to say. It’s awful, it’s emotionally abusive but it happens.

You will find this useful reading: https://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Implacable_hostility&oldid=745049685

[TheOneWhoKnocksParticipant]

Well,

First thing, as I mentioned before, the matters in the family courts are confidential. So there is nowhere you can go safely for advice unless you keep things extremely factual, bland, do not hint at your case and post anonymously to an internet forum somewhere, but then who can say that the advice you receive is appropriate?

Friends and family are invaluable sources of support.

[TheOneWhoKnocksParticipant]

Keep a diary.

Keep squeaky clean.

Things do take a while to get into court.

I do recommend filing those Subject Access Requests to get started. Who knows what you’ll learn?

[TheOneWhoKnocksParticipant]

Did you speak to them?

Watch this in its entirety. It’s American based but 100% applies to the UK as well: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d-7o9xYp7eE

Everyone aged 12 and above should see this at least once a year.

[TheOneWhoKnocksParticipant]

First and foremost. Parents make the decisions for their children taking into account the best interests of their children, not the children themselves.

A change of schools will, currently require your consent. Your daughter cannot be enrolled elsewhere without your consent.

I suggest that as a first step that you should have a conversation with the headteacher to explain your concerns.

As a second step, call a few solicitors and go with the one that feels best to you. You’ll get an idea during their “sales” meeting with you as to how balanced they are and their style.

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