[BrennanParticipant]

Help please, I’ve just subscribed to help my son who is reached an all time low and is about to give up. Our grandson is almost 10. My son and his ex split up when their son was 4 months old. She was abusive and the police had been involved at times. She threw a laptop on one occasion which narrowly missed the baby. This escalated and culminated in her running my son over leaving him lying in the road. When he reached hospital the police were called by staff as my son was worried about what she would do and did not want to report it. She was arrested for attempted murder and my son interviewed but played it down. The account she gave to police was proven to be false by the forensic tests on the car. After this she was basically let off and the the incident deemed an accident. She then denied my son any access to his son and it was about 8 months later he was able to have supervised visits. Carcass were involved and his ex made up a pack of lies. She got custody but my son was having his son at his house for up to a week at a time when it suited her. He had to agree to everything she demanded or “you can’t see your son” this has gone on for years but at least we had regular contact. Recently she has stopped allowing my son to have him at all. Saying he is a bad influence and that my son was abusive to her. I had bought our grandson a phone so he could ring his dad. My son thinks she felt threatened by there close relationship. I kept in touch with her and asked if our grandson could stay with us if not his dad. She then said we were a bad influence also because we did not agree our son was a bad influence. She blocks all calls now and our grandson is not responding to text msgs from any of us. He has 3 cousins whom he was also close to and so he is also having no contact with them. We think from the wording of her msgs that she is being advised by someone and she is saying our son Is an unfit father, abusive and she does not want him to see his dad. He has been prevented from going to his school ( if he didn’t agree he would not see his son). It’s heartbreaking and we do t know what she has told our grandson to explain why he is not seeing any of us. I subscribed to F4J in the hope someone can advise. My son is convinced she will revert back to demanding supervised visits. I’m bewildered at the level of control she has exerted over our sons life. We live 60 miles away and when my son got a house nearer to his son she forced him to relinquish it or she would stop him seeing his son. Is it worth paying the £800 to get a case manager? My son is certain if he tries to go down the official route she will immediately make claims which are false and she is likely to be supported by the system in her efforts to stop future visits? Grateful for any advice. Thanks

[BrennanParticipant]

Reading the comments in this feed shall I assume that even if the father is named on the birth certificate he basically has no rights to information re school reports, attending parents evenings or visiting the school if the mother tells the school not to engage with the father?
If this is correct what can be done? Seems from this feed absolutely nothing?

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